Five Reasons Why You’re Always Single

It’s easy to blame apps for dating’s downfall, but is there more to the story? we are back Maya Tylera life and relationship coach, to learn.

Tyler lists the most important reasons he sees in his own experience as contributing to the fact that people constantly find themselves in a single spiral.

Prejudice from previous experience.

“People tend to gravitate towards what they see, hear or fear will happen when it comes to negative possibilities in relationships. When you bring in your negative bias, you limit your ability to recognize, accept, and even anticipate positive change.

Peer pressure.

“Everybody wants to please everybody. We want social acceptance. People tend to want a mate that ticks all the boxes their friends, family, and traditions require; Rather than deciding and even looking for what THEY really want or what serves THEIR character, needs and lifestyles.”

Boundary error.

“Being single can be lonely, so lowering our boundaries at least increases our chances of not being lonely or being rejected—that’s tempting. The problem is that if you’re in a relationship that constantly pushes your boundaries (your needs, boundaries, and deal-breakers) or ignores them, it usually – eventually – you will be single again.

Unrealistic expectation.

“It’s not always about waiting for fairy tales. Sometimes people expect a new relationship to be an ideal one they’ve seen before, been in before, or created in their minds without putting the necessary effort.”

Don’t sabotage yourself.

“This is exactly when a person creates the situation they say they fear, engages in actions that push others away, or leaves relationships without “going bad” or being painful. It’s not always a self-esteem issue when people don’t believe they can truly be loved by anyone. This is usually a previous childhood experience. “It stems from events or formative memories that create a “fear shock” or PTSD response. But sometimes it is an act of self-preservation where the person is afraid of what will happen next and what might have to be compromised if they fall in love.”